2. Claim Your Space
What happens when two adults and one little individual are sharing the same space for almost year?
You learn that voicing your needs is key to a drama-free existence (that's not to say we don't have our share of drama :)).
And it isnt about physical space. But claiming your right to your own mental and emotional sanity is as essential as turning up for other members of the family.
If you're a mom, you probably get what I'm talking about. It's almost first nature, instinct, that tells us we need to put others before us. Not the smartest of decisions IMO.
Ask any homemaker and you'll learn what a nightmare 2020 has been. To juggle individual schedules, food habits, household chores and then show up for mom duties requires mammoth mental stamina.
The mundane humdrum, the painfully repetitive nature of these tasks, the fact that taking a day off from any of them means you have to work double shift to clear the load next day, has made me realize the value of simply saying no. Without mom guilt.
It isn't restricted to women who have day jobs, you know. Mom guilt is the result of social conditioning that makes women believe that claiming some time for yourself makes you the 'anti-mom'.
And slowly but steadily, little-by-little I'm learning to be unapologetic about saying no. About claiming my time and my space too.
And while it's still work in progress (duh!) it's better late than never.
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